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People always ask me why I decided to become a Therapist.
But instead of asking “why did you become a therapist?” they usually say something resembling “why on earth would you resign from a successful, well-paying career in Financial Services, just to help other people solve their problems?” It’s a good question, and one that I love to answer.
Ten years ago my life looked dramatically different. On paper everything looked good. I was living in New York City, I had a great apartment, and I worked for a Financial Services organization that was highly respected in the industry. The only problem in this scenario was that on the inside I was very unhappy. I wasn’t proud of myself, my accomplishments felt inauthentic. I lacked passion. My outlook on the future was dreary because in my mind it was pre-determined. It felt like I was living life on auto-pilot. A lot of energy was put towards ignoring my inner-feelings and even pretending they didn’t exist. It was an exhausting way to live. So how did I end up on auto-pilot? I came to realize that I had been living this way for the majority of my life. It began when I was a teenager / young-adult where I found it so much easier to get on a proven ‘path-to-success’ rather than create my own. I never asked myself the tough questions: Who am I? What / who do I want to be when I grow up? I just did what everyone else did. And because I am a guy I never talked about any of this stuff. With my controls set to auto-pilot I continued down the only path I thought was available, and seamlessly went through the appropriate stages on this path: High School —College—Career in NYC. To be clear, there is nothing fundamentally wrong with this path. I have friends, family, former colleagues who have found happiness & success on this path. Their journey was fueled by love and passion. Mine was not. I eventually realized (with some professional help) my journey was about trying to live life according to other people’s dreams and expectations. It was starting to make sense why I ended up in a place of such unhappiness.
Everything changed for me in the aftermath of the 2008 financial crisis. Going through this affected me on many levels, but it also helped me acquire some valuable insight: 1) I needed to re-evaluate what was important to me in life. 2) Even though something looks good on the outside, if the foundation or core is not healthy, long-term success is not sustainable. 3) Change needs to happen NOW! My foundation needed a lot of work. It was going to have to be re-built on something I was passionate about, something organic from within.
It was hard asking for help, but I was desperate, and desperate times call for desperate measures. I mustered up some courage and talked to my best friend about what was really going on with me. I was shocked when he told me that he knew something was up, and also when he said “I actually felt the same way.” He gave me the name of his therapist and told me to call her. Thus, began my journey into professional counseling. My Therapist was amazing, but what I really responded to was the ‘process’ of therapy and the environment that it took place in. I felt comfortable taking risks and challenging underlying assumptions about life that got me into auto-pilot mode. It was here that I got comfortable with the authentic version of myself and developed the courage to create my own path in life – one in which I was in control.
“Follow your passion. It will lead to your purpose.”
I have been working as a Professional Counselor since 2015. I have had success helping individuals and families overcome challenges related to mental health and substance use. Drawing on my own experience I have also been effective helping people struggling to find direction and purpose in life. But regardless of the reason someone comes to my office, I am honored to be part of their journey.
People are always asking why I chose to become a therapist. I love to answer the question, and it is because I love what I do!
My wife Jenny and I recently moved to Greenville with our son Jackson and 20lb Shih Tzu ‘Bear.’ We are thrilled to be starting this chapter of our lives in such a beautiful place.
- Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC)
- Certified Addiction Counselor (CAC)
- M.A. Clinical & Mental Health Counseling – Fairfield University, Fairfield CT.