If you're dealing with drug addiction in your family, then you already know how quickly relationships become toxic. In this video, you'll learn how to reverse the dysfunctional patterns.
There are 4 boxes that we tend to get ourselves into that allow us to continue to justify bad behavior, bad decisions, and unfortunately continue to instigate conflict and problems in our lives that we don't want. If you want to get rid of that conflict, you're going to have to gain a deeper self-awareness about these tendencies.
In this video, I'll be referring to this book, The Anatomy of Peace. We'll be applying these specific concepts from the book to addiction. We'll look at it from the family point of view and the person struggling with addiction.
Better Than Box- The state of thinking and being better than other people. When you're in the better than box you see others as inferior and irrelevant.
I Deserve Box- This defense mechanism happens when you've extended yourself and you feel like no one appreciates you. It has a belief that the world is unjust/unfair.
Need to be Seen as box- The need for other people to think well of you. A lot of times this defense mechanism leaves you feeling stressed and needy. It has a world view that others are judgmental and others are always watching and judging you.
Worst Than Box- This box takes the stance that we beat ourselves up and have a lot of negative self-talk or feel less than or deficient. It has a world view that others are against you and that life is difficult. It leaves you feeling helpless, bitter, and resentful.
Don't let addiction turn you into someone that you're not! In this video, you'll discover how to get yourself and your relationships QUICKLY back on track.
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