Written By:Amber Hollingsworth,LPC
Although addiction really is very predictable, I have to admit that recovery IS NOT! When someone is in active addiction, I can generally predict behaviors, reactions, and even outcomes, but I have found that getting people sober is a lot more varied.
At Hope For Families we spend a ton of time really trying to find out as much as we can about the person (we already know about addiction). This is so important because it gives us a lot of information about what things might be effective in helping that individual. People really do respond differently to various approaches. We ask tons of questions, we interview family members, we want to know all about a person’s likes and dislikes, what they are good at, what makes them angry, what they were like as a child, who is their best friend, etc…..
We use a structured system for determining personality type (called Enneagram). Actually, we do this for everyone in the family so we can see how individual personalities are interacting. This is a wonderful tool, that tells us a lot about how a person will likely react to various situations and suggestions. My clients are always surprised at how interested I am in who they are (not just what “bad things” they have done!).
We use all this information to help guide individuals and/or their family members on how to move toward recovery. There is no “right way” to get there. Every client, has a slightly different path to recovery. Here are just a few examples to illustrate what I mean:
For our clients who are very intellectual, I recommend lots of learning and education about addiction and recovery. This personality type responds very well to our online recovery classes. For them, understanding creates action. Family member also love these online courses, it helps them make sense of the situation and start to understand what they can do to support their loved one.
Some of our clients prefer a much more spiritually focused pathway to recovery. This type of client often responds well to traditional 12-step approach and/or Celebrate Recovery. There is also a very popular book called Jesus Calling.
At times I can tell that an individual is really starving for connection and positive recovery supports. Group therapy is ideal for this situation. Becoming part of some sort of recovery fellowship is vital in this situation.
We tend to see a lot of professionals at Hope For Families, and they struggle with balancing their recovery and the demands of their careers/family. This population has responded exceptionally well to the use of Soberlink alcohol monitoring system, because it provides them with accountability while also allowing them to continue to function in their jobs and at home. Additionally, I recommend using Apps like “AA to-go” and “Joe and Charlie”
It is so important to gather as many puzzle pieces as possible when making recommendations. If you have a loved one struggling with addiction or alcoholism and you aren’t sure what would help them, schedule a consult session with one of our specialists today. This can be done in person or over the phone. We would love to hear about your situation and point you in the right direction.